Cruising Signals & Cues
Cruising typically involves a nonverbal cue that is subtle but obvious enough to signal other guys you are interested in having sex.
The best way to respond to a guy who is potentially cruising you is to mirror his signals back to him. When cruising a guy always signal slowly and more than once.
While cruising, remember it is important to have regards for others.
- It is never appropriate to physically touch another guy if you are not absolutely sure he is interested. Cues must always be used first.
- Never assume a guy is automatically interested in you just because he is cruising.
- It can be easy to not recognize or misread a cue. In uncertain situations it is best to not pursue any further.
- If a guy shakes his head, says no, frowns at you, or does not reciprocate your signals, it means he is not interested. Do not continue to pursue him.
- Do not persistently follow a guy around unless he has signaled you to.
- Avoid being obvious when cruising. Do not repeatedly enter and exit a bathroom or public vicinity. Do not stay in these areas for extended amounts of time.
- If two guys are already playing; you can signal your interest but do not stay and watch if you are not welcomed to join.
- Avoid playing in plain view or any area where bystanders, families, or children can see you.
- Never take pictures or record video of another guy without his permission.
These cues can generally be used anywhere and are the most common signs to look for. You should always look for a combination of more than one of these signals before assuming a guy is cruising.
- Prolonged eye contact. (Usually the first sign to look for.)
- If he makes eye contact with you only once briefly then looks away; he most likely is not cruising.
- Touching his bulge. (While making eye contact is a sure sign.)
- A raise of the eyebrow or a wink.
- Poking the inside of his cheek with his own tongue (means he wants oral play).
- Licking his lips (means he wants to suck).
- Patting his butt (means he wants to bottom).
- His zipper is down.
- One of his pocket lining is hanging out.
- Tipping his baseball cap.
- Pulling on one of his earlobes.
- Stroking his thumb in a suggestive manner.
- He walks past you then looks back or stops and pretend to look at something.
- Tilting his head or glancing with his eyes towards the direction he wants you to walk.
- If he signals for you to follow and it takes you a while to do so, it is assumed you are not interested.
- Lowering his pants to partially expose his package or back side.
- A single cough used to be very common but this cue has become outdated.
- Verbal cue: asking "having fun?" and replying "not yet."
- Verbal cue: asking for directions "do you know what's south of here?" and replying "I can show you if you want."
- Verbal cue: asking "are you generous?" means he is asking for you to pay him money for sex.
Parks, Trails, and Bikes
Parks and trails often have a dedicated area for cruising.
- Guys usually sit off trail to cruise.
- Parks are usually reserved for night time meetings. But be mindful of when the park is closed to avoid trouble.
- It is typical to not talk at all while cruising at a park.
- Wearing a baseball cap is the usual attire for cruising in a park.
- He sits down on the bench next to you while there are other available seats.
- He nods his head and slows down while walking past you.
- He walks past you several times instead of continuing on the trail.
- He nods at you and enters an area with many trees or coverage.
- On a bike: he makes a circle with his fingers and places it on his thigh when riding past.
- On a bike: he rubs his butt when passing in front of you.
- On a bike: he stops after passing you and looks back to make eye contact.
- On a bike: he strokes his handlebar in a suggestive manner.
If a guy is taking much longer to finish common tasks in a restroom, it typically means he is cruising.
- Standing at a urinal for a long time.
- Standing at a urinal and looking around or making eye contact.
- Standing at a urinal and stroking himself.
- Standing at a urinal then tilting his head to signal for you to follow him into a stall.
- Standing at the urinal next to you.
- Washing his hands for a long time while making eye contact (many times via the mirror).
- Drying his hands for a long time while making eye contact.
- If he is "urinating" in a stall with the door wide open; pretend to walk in unknowingly. Linger to look before leaving; he will show off his cock if he is interested.
- If he is in the stall and has the door almost closed but not locked, he is most likely cruising. Again, pretend to walk in unknowingly.
- In a stall; tap your foot and see if he repeats the tapping pattern.
- In a stall; he touches your foot with his foot.
- In a stall; look for shadows of hand gestures, dick outlines or stoking motions.
- In a stall; gesturing "come" with your hand means you want him to put his dick under.
- In a stall; if a "peephole" is present, look to see if he is exposing himself for you to see. If the peephole is plugged (usually with tissue paper), do not look or try to cruise.
- In a stall; if a "gloryhole" is present, touching the hole with your fingers means you want him to put his dick through it. While sucking him, if he taps on the wall, it means he is about to cum.
- In a stall; running your fingers along the bottom of the stall's wall signals you want to play. If he reciprocates, it means he is looking to play too.
Gyms and Saunas
Cruising usually does not take place in the workout area of a gym but more so in amenity areas such as showers, saunas or locker rooms.
- The showers are where most guys will do their cruising.
- If he showers with the curtain slightly open, look to see if he is exposing himself on purpose.
- He showers with the curtain completely open.
- He is sitting with a towel over his lap and exposes himself subtly.
- Touching himself in front of you.
- Taking a long time to change.
- Changing often in one session.
- Pretending to wipe off sweat or adjust himself but actually touching himself.
- If he nods at you before entering the locker room, follow him in to check things out.
- Avoid wearing headphones if you are cruising.
- Steam rooms have limited views so it might be hard to make eye contact. Instead, try foot tapping and mirroring his body language.
- In a steam room: he moves to sit closer to you.
- In a steam room: he hangs a towel over his right shoulder.
- If there is no place to play in the gym; time your exit to be the same as him. (Possibly wait for him in the lobby.) This could lead to car play.
Sometimes guys will cruise while sitting in their cars but it can be hard to recognize; so it is best to signal using the car itself.
- Usually, when cruising in a car, it is more common to back into a parking space rather than park head in.
- He parks next to you.
- He puts the passenger side sun visor down but the driver side sun visor up.
- He has the driver or passenger window half open.
- He has the light on inside.
- He has the door slightly open.
- He hangs a bandanna or handkerchief on his rear view mirror.
- He steps on the brakes to light them up twice when you pass by.
- He hangs his arm outside the window and taps his fingers against the door in a pattern.
- He walks by your car to look at you.
- He leaves his car and gives you a nod to follow him.
- Verbal cue: asking "do you know how to get on the highway from here?" and replying "are you looking to go south?"
After establishing unmistakable interest using cues, you can always go somewhere more private and be more direct about what you are looking for. Remember to always be safe and have fun!